tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post3462062105306964193..comments2023-08-05T07:19:13.900-07:00Comments on Missing Maxie: ExplanationsAbby Levisshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15748394086960661826noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post-49252242383573892812011-11-06T21:21:31.590-08:002011-11-06T21:21:31.590-08:00Abby,
You did everything right. You were the perf...Abby,<br /><br />You did everything right. You were the perfect mother. What happened is a horribly unjust. NOTHING you did brought this on. It is so unfair.<br /><br />XOXO<br />AmyAmy Rnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post-36093693652871276982011-11-06T02:30:46.219-08:002011-11-06T02:30:46.219-08:00Abby-
I didn't know "old abby" - but...Abby-<br />I didn't know "old abby" - but I think that "new abby" is amazing, wise, and loving. I agree with Kimberley that posted above - I would join the "I Hate Anonymous" page on facebook! You deserve only support and you just continue breathing and taking each day as it comes.Yaelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post-51913510997297640072011-11-03T22:03:18.196-07:002011-11-03T22:03:18.196-07:00I love you, New Abby!! And even though I did know...I love you, New Abby!! And even though I did know the old Abby, and will wish forever that New Abby grew under very different circumstances, I'll keep loving and liking you with every new iteration of yourself. XOX -- TallieTallie Fishburnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18228622796728739375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post-19212621573051393722011-11-03T13:02:25.392-07:002011-11-03T13:02:25.392-07:00Abby, I'm thinking about you a lot these days....Abby, I'm thinking about you a lot these days. I continue to be horrified by people judging your process. It's so unhelpful and unsupportive. I want to start a "I Hate Anonymous" page on facebook and just keep hitting "Like" all day. I'm also thinking about your posts where you list all the things you think you did wrong with little Maxie. I keep thinking how the day to day reality of motherhood isn't always blissful, or easy, or fun. It is a struggle to maintain your selfhood when there is suddenly someone there who you love more than you love yourself. How to balance, how to juggle, how to continue being a wife, daughter, sister, friend, colleaugue, whole human... and to simultaneously be a mother. That should be a life-long endeavor, a lifetime of figuring out. But you only had 9 months. I guess what I am saying is, when I read your descriptions of motherhood, I think - she was the best mother ever. She loved her child, she allowed herself to hit those highest of highs and lowest of lows, she was that honest with herself, she was that present. She was conscious of her choices. She noticed. She loved her little boy. I know that I can't tell you not to have regrets. But if I could, I would, because from here, you have absolutely nothing to feel sorry for. Maxie was loved and cherished and cared for in the most perfect of ways. What a very lucky little boy. And how painfully unfair that he is not here anymore to enjoy all those blessings. Thinking of you today. xxooKimberly Bonheim Birbrowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05666277584847963184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post-90465994682124237922011-11-03T08:02:50.938-07:002011-11-03T08:02:50.938-07:00Abby - I've started to read your entries every...Abby - I've started to read your entries every day and even though my heart breaks with every post thinking about your family, I do so appreciate you writing your thoughts. You have put in words so many feelings I've had in the past but didn't quite understand or knew how to process. I didn't know the old Abby too well (other than you are one of the few non-architect wives!) but I think the new Abby is very wise.marirobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17567068962904837999noreply@blogger.com