tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post5089937203833443450..comments2023-08-05T07:19:13.900-07:00Comments on Missing Maxie: This post isn't gonna be prettyAbby Levisshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15748394086960661826noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post-1054239584042129372012-04-24T10:08:49.640-07:002012-04-24T10:08:49.640-07:00I just read about you losing your Maxie in the Mar...I just read about you losing your Maxie in the Marlborough Alumni Magazine. I am so, so sorry. My second daughter is 10 months old and losing her would be so devastating I have no idea how I would go on. You are very brave. I try to be brave - my older daughter has a severe nut allergy and when she's not with me I am constantly worried that something will happen to her. Reading your blog sends tears down my face. Please don't be embarrassed about crying. Any normal person would just want to give you a big hug if they knew. I hope you will discover many new, caring friends through this difficult journey. I will go donate now--I love that you are doing something wonderful in his honor.Kathy Hales '92noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post-64724053807271975912012-04-24T07:12:48.248-07:002012-04-24T07:12:48.248-07:00i think about this often. i too have lost quite a ...i think about this often. i too have lost quite a few friends. they just scattered like rats when Julius passed away. and like you, i'm pretty sure if they ever contacted me again, i would either ignore them or give them a piece of my mind. it's one thing to do something to me. but when i feel like you have been disrespectful to my son's memory, oh there is no coming back from that. and plus i wouldn't want to waste my time on someone who is a crappy friend. i'm a lot less forgiving these days. i just don't have time for it.Tiffany Torresnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post-42141144710545404862012-04-24T03:24:00.786-07:002012-04-24T03:24:00.786-07:00Friends and family are people who come into your l...Friends and family are people who come into your life sometimes for a lifetime. Others come into your life for years or months, days and some only last hours or minutes. They do not know how to respond because they haven't been through what you have been through. It isn't just friends who respond less than expected, many relatives do this as well--and we all react to life's situations so very differently. <br /><br />I remember very clearly the people who after the funeral of our son--stepped back as if to say, "I AM OUT OF HERE!" If people only understood how much we need them especially after the funeral. After the funeral is when all the people who are there to surround you to hold you up--simply disappear and you find yourself alone even when you have your spouse to rely on--it is very lonely because this is the time where we are each left with our own thoughts. <br /><br />Don't even give your old friends another thought if those thoughts hold anything negative--wasted energy! It is those thoughts that will shape and create your future. It is so very important that we take time to create beautiful loving thoughts..think of your Maxie as I think of my Michael and feel the LOVE. Think about the love he brought to you while you had him and think about the love you can send to him where he is right now...right beside you. Create love ....and love will come right back at you.<br /><br />Again, I send this note to you with pure loving intentions... I am thinking about you and I hope this will help. I know when we hurt there is absolutely nothing that anyone can say that will help because that will not bring back Maxie or Michael. That is one of the reasons you don't hear from those friends because they cannot imagine this happening to them nor do they want to--AND they just don't know what to say--they are speechless which comes across like they don't care. <br /><br /><br />Love & Light,<br />SanethaSanethanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post-3770129657927692502012-04-24T03:14:34.265-07:002012-04-24T03:14:34.265-07:00I am so sorry you keep getting hurt by these peopl...I am so sorry you keep getting hurt by these people. You and Ted have been through and are going through so much -- it saddens me that you have to deal with these sorts of people! I am always thinking of you guys and little angel Maxie z"l.Yael Levontinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post-76119942169752041102012-04-23T14:38:22.747-07:002012-04-23T14:38:22.747-07:00"A friend is someone who dances with you in t..."A friend is someone who dances with you in the sunlight and walks with you in the shadows." Here's to the friends who are in the shadows with you and Ted now! (Or, the friends who are "in the pit" with you as you might say.)<br />Thinking about you guys all the time...missing Maxie.Allisonkovacnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post-80368797832054439072012-04-23T13:07:20.421-07:002012-04-23T13:07:20.421-07:00Abby,
I was wondering if there was a way for me t...Abby,<br /><br />I was wondering if there was a way for me to send a present to you for Baby M. It is just something small that I made and I would like to give it to your son. Let me know how I can mail it to you if you if you are interested. I am thinking of you and of Maxie.<br /><br />Emalee BanksEmaleebanksnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823549861851853736.post-4315357820394050052012-04-23T11:29:09.568-07:002012-04-23T11:29:09.568-07:00Sadly, your list of "friends" is probabl...Sadly, your list of "friends" is probably like mine, and includes family who have completely disappeared from the landscape of our lives since Colin died. There are no calls, no emails, no letters, nothing from the people who are supposed to be those you can lean on during your worst days. Sadly, if there is no a party where they can eat, drink, and be merry, then they just disappear into the distance. God know that if we won the lottery, most of these people would be more than happy to enjoy in our spoils, but when it is life that has spoiled, these same people simply just do not exist.<br /><br />I there is a lesson out of any of this is that maybe we are supposed to be better judges of character and humanity. I am not so sure if that is always true of me now, but I know that I am far more selective in who I call "friend." It is a much more powerful word than it used to be.<br /><br />Take Care,<br />StevenSteven Stuartnoreply@blogger.com