Ted is a real "man's man"....whatever that means (even though you know EXACTLY what that means). I've only seen him cry a few times. I know he has cried oceans of tears for Maxie, but they have happened in hiding - at the cemetery, in the bathroom or in his car. He is warm and loving and someone that people like to confide in - but I wouldn't say he is super comfortable with emotion....so I am definitely not suggesting that people start crying their hearts out to Ted from now on to make him feel good. But, that spontaneous eruption of emotion from a (mostly) stranger upon hearing of our loss was meaningful to him. It made him feel good to have someone acknowledge the pain and devastation of losing our baby boy.
I am the vocal one. I am the one who paints the picture of life without our baby. I am the one who couldn't stop crying for months. But, Ted's life has been turned upside down too. He may not cry or beg for acknowledgement or try to explain to anyone what "this" is like - but sometimes, just the look in his eyes says more than any words ever could.
Ted is the most incredible father a child could ask for. His life revolves around these boys. His relationships with Max and Mo were/are so special and unique. I don't need to say it - but Father's Day is bittersweet. Ted became a father the day our Max was born - and though it may not look like it on the surface, he is a father of TWO. He carries Maxie in his heart so profoundly - I see it every day. I hope Max does too. If he is with us somehow, there is no way he could miss it.
Happy Father's Day to the best father I know. I know this road is challenging. I couldn't feel luckier than to be walking it with you.
XOXO - Love you Teddy!