Big kids are mean

Big kids can be mean! We play at a few playgrounds and indoor play spaces and Mo is always drawn to the big kids.  It's no surprise to me that he especially favors the kids that are the same age Max would be.  It also makes my heart sink a little.  He always toddles over to them with a big smile on his face.  Once in a while, they are welcoming, think he's cute, and let him play.  Most of the time though, they give him a dirty look, and push him away.  What's up with that?  I guess I would understand better if I had a three and a half year old myself.  I would know that they aren't always that nice. They are just learning to share and play well with others. Luckily Mo doesn't mind. He can't understand what they are saying anyway and he is used to getting pushed out of the way by our dogs - he just pushes right back.  But I feel bad.  Whenever I see him run up to a little three year old kid, I can't help but think, "You should have a playmate this age at home all of the time little buddy."  Naturally, I want to see what that would be like.  Plus, we mostly go play outside of our home so that Mo can have the opportunity to play with other kids.  But, most of the time what I see is that big kids can be mean and that Mo ends up entertaining himself.  I guess Mo will probably be like that too one day (hopefully, a quick lived phase)!


Mo playing by himself at our favorite indoor playground.  He ALWAYS goes for this shopping cart!  And if you don't believe me, here he is again: 



4 comments

Anonymous said...

Just a few of weeks before my daughter passed, I took her to the playground near our house. She picked up a toy from the ground, and a older kid saw and came to her and wanted the same toy. I bended over to my.daughter and asked her if she like to share this toy with him. My daughter immediately gave the toy to the boy. I felt so good about her. She's such a good girl and now I just feel more pain of losing her. I don't go near that playground anymore.

Abby Leviss said...

I am so sorry. These beautiful memories of our children are SO hard. All of the things I love about Max are the things I miss and sometimes just remembering HIM hurts. I am sorry if my post brought that up for you. It's so so hard. I know.

Anonymous said...

I had a big and good cry after I wrote my comment. Memory hurts, especially those sweet and beautiful memories hurt the most. The more I think how good she was, the more it hurts...

Abby Leviss said...

I totally relate to that. I am SO sorry. It's important to honor these memories and the feelings we have around them. Thank you for sharing your good girl here.