Let's Stick Together

Other than Ted, nobody understands me more than other grieving parents.  Nobody. Not even my own parents. Unless you've lost a child, you can only imagine the horror and heartbreak....even if you've experienced traumatic loss. I can't relate to other kinds of loss in the same way either.  And, I'm not saying that ANYONE will ever fully understand MY loss, because nobody else was Maxie's mother...but another bereaved parent usually gets it pretty close.  If we don't support each other, who else will support us? I do my best to comfort other grieving parents, to relate to them, to let them know I care...because I really do. I'm sure sometimes I come up short, as everyone does, but I will never belittle their loss, never judge their grieving, and never cut them down or accuse them of grieving too hard or asking for too much attention.  My favorite people are other bereaved parents. I rely on their support myself. I HATE why we know each other but I consider it a blessing that we do.  I think we need to stick together.

5 comments

Em said...

Amen to that!

Anonymous said...

I just wish all grievers could support each other. My loss doesn't fit a "category" yet I'm still living in this abyss called life. And I don't get support from anybody!! Not even fellow grievers in my life. It's really sad and exhausting and heart breaking. Lindsay

Maxie's Mommy said...

I love you Lindsay! I will support you as best I can. You are in a category by the way...two of them! I am so sorry.

Jayden's Mommy said...

I love you Abby for been such a good person. Even many many miles away and specially in the very early days your blog and your kind words made a huge difference in my life. And probably you will never know the extend of it. Thanks. Kira

Tiffany said...

i agree. though i've been hurt several times by other BLMs. those are the hurts that sting so much more because they are *supposed* to "get it". :(